I am a former stepmother, I will say my health, both physical and emotional, has improved 1000% since I got out of that situation. I will say that my ex husband cheated on me and thats why I filed for divorce, it was not because of his kids.

Sometimes, kids grow up and you don't like who they turn out to be. Stepkids, biokids, adopted kids, it happens. I'm a stepmother, I can empathize. But if you marry someone with, say, a teenager who is set in their ways, you really don't deserve much sympathy because you hate the kid. Children change and develop personalities, good or bad. Teens might act out, but for the most part they are who they will be forever, and they don't hide it.

I'm about over whiiiny ass stepmothers. It's your fault you married a men with children.

Yrs ago when I was single, I date a few divorced men with kids but figured out quickly that I didn't want to be a stepmother. I wanted to 'start fresh' with someone that had never been married or had kids before. I just knew it wasnt for me..glad I did. Now that Im married with kids, I think if I ever became single again I wouldnt want to marry--sure it could change but I just dont think I would want that complication.

I don't understand what it's like to be a stepmother, you're right - I also don't give a shit. What part of "you knew he had kids" don't you understand?

I didn't remind DH to call his stepmother or to send her a birthday card, so he totally forgot about her.

OP with whiny pants wetting 6 year old stepson again..(he lied about me showing him pictures of plane crashes and burning houses)DH talked to him about this. Stepson started crying when DH asked if I really showed him those pictures.Then again,he cries literally if you look at him wrong. Later, biomom sent my DH an email stating that she still believed that I showed him the pictures.DH mentioned counseling again to her, she said no again.There is not much I can do, except enjoy the peace and quiet this weekend. I really wish I could do more, I am not an "evil stepmother"

My kids have a stepmother, and I do my best not to cause trouble because my kids could be affected. A lot of biomoms cause trouble, and that often results in the kids seeing their dad less often, especially being intrusive and controlling on Ex-DH's home with his current wife.

I am the OP that has been married almost a year and only have sex once or twice a month. We have his kids every weekend, I want to insist for ONE weekend a month to ourselves, but I don't want to be THAT stepmother. I try to initiate and get turned down.

I had to put my aging cat to sleep this weekend and I am completely devastated. More than a friend and companion, he was the last vestige of the great life I led before getting married and becoming a stepmother. While I love my husband, the latter has been an ongoing horror. Kitty's death closes the last door on happier times. My buddy is gone. My past is gone. The present is all there is, and it sucks.