I have zero sympathy for most step moms. In my experience, many women act like mother of the year to these kids so their BF will be impressed. The. When they get married, they are shocked that kids comes around and that their DH has to be a father. My favorite complaint is that they bitch about the kids coming to THEIR home. It's the step kids home too, as long as daddy lives there.

My Dh pays CS as well as purchasing clothes & paying for activities. I do not believe my SD's mom has the right to question how we spend my and Dh's money. If we are going on vacation, have a nice rental, buying DD gifts, putting DS in football, driving a nicer car, have microfiber couches, etc(all things she has complained about) it is none of her business as long as CS is current. DH and I work hard to provide for not only SD, but also DS & DD. I see nothing wrong with providing equally for all our kids. I hate this Step kids deserve everything mentality on here & IRL.

I am mean to my step kids. It's not *my* job to raise somebody else's kids.

I would never recommend dating/marrying a man with children. Every little thing I do is under a microscope by my SD & SS's mom. She will question them & make issues out of small things. If we take a short trip over the weekend my intentions are questioned, meals I cook are to make her look bad, every purchase is scrutinized, if 1 of my step kids ask for something & I ask them to give me 5 minutes because I'm feeding DD5mos I'm accused of putting DD 1st. I hate drama & just want things to be peaceful. I enjoy my step kids, but the pressure stresses me out.

I want to say "thank you" to all the wonderful step moms out there!! You guys have made me feel a ton better about disliking my step kids, Im glad Im not alone!

When I was 18 I had a boyfriend and slept with his brother that my best friend was in love with and when i told her she fainted, they had to call the ambulance, everybody hated me including my then boyfriend. I had one night stands hoping for relationships. I cheated four times in my whole life.I went out with a guy that turned out to have a gf, never left her so I broke it off. Then I dated a guy that told me had kids and later confessed being married, I forgave him, he divorced then we married. I don't like him keep in contact with ex step kids. he listens to me. There's something wrong w/me

I use to do a lot for my step kids, but it was never appreciated, never enough. DH does what he needs to do, but I do nothing. Dh's ex and kids said I did nothing, now it's true.

I think there are more evil exes/moms than there are evil new wives/SMs. I do as much as I can for my step kids, but their mom seems to carry a lot of anger and bitterness no matter how I try to prove myself. She refuses to accept me and does whatever she can to cause stress in our lives.

I'm considering leaving my DH. Since my step kids have become teens the drama is too much. I don't blame the kids as they do as their mom says, but they have become disrespectful to me, physically violent towards my twins, break things on purpose. They have even stolen jewelry DH gave me, I almost got in a physical fight with their mom because she had on my gmas necklace and was rubbing it so I would see. I won't ask DH to choose between his older kids and me/younger kids. I might take my kids out of state. I love him and our family, but it's making me sick and I need to protect my girls.

When my step kids were younger, things were a lot easier. We just went about our days and had lots of fun family times. It was easy to ignore their mother's antics because the kids were happy and that's all that mattered to us. Now the kids treat me like crap and turn around and demand things from me. The only want to bothered by DH and I when they want something. They report every movement we make to their mother so now I feel uncomfortable in my own home when they are around. After all these years of DH's ex promising to teach the kids to hate us she has achieved her goal. We failed.