Yes babe, I know its tough at home. The kids need to be at fed and dressed and taken to school, then wrestle around with the laundry, cleaning, and all other housework. I think that you're amazing to be able to handle all that and still be on FB and watch Grey's, Private Practice, all the Housewives, Dance Moms, anything on Lifetime, and whatever else thats Tivo'd.

My dh and I both work full time. We split all the housework 50/50, both spend one on one time with the kids, he is responsible for the car and garage and I the yard and garden. We have an amazing sex life and love one another very much. It surprises everyone because he is so manly and buff, but he is honestly the most caring,loving, giving man I know. I think it was because he was raised by a single mom and she did an amazing job. I love my MIL.

My stepfather was out catching rabbits and fish and anything that his family could eat while his mother and sisters were doing all the housework and raising a backyard garden. His father was a musician who was gone 12 to 16 hours a day playing his violin on a street corner for money. If my stepfather didn't come home with a rabbit or a pigeon, his family didn't have meat for dinner and his little sisters would cry themselves to sleep. This was in 1935, and my stepfather was 6 years old.

I have to admit I am shocked by how many women I hear talking about how they just can't balance everything now that they have a second child or a third and it's so hard to get it all done and they're frazzled and behind on housework and on and on. My grandma had ten kids and got things done without modern conveniences. Her house was spotless. My mom had twelve kids and I never once heard her complain. Yep, everything got done. My other grandma had five kids and she talked about how EASY she had it! It is SO doable, SO easy, SO much less difficult nowadays, especially with only a few kids. Wow.

I always feel like I couldn't do worse as a mother since I'm never caught up on the housework and too tired from working to play with the kids all the time, but then I'm reminded by the crack moms at the school carnival that I could be doing so much worse!!

(cont) As much as a sympathize with BIL's fiancee... DH is from the same family! Yeah, the women do almost ALL the housework in that family, and maybe they raised their kids to be lazy, but da**it... DH is great, a little behind on HOW to clean, but he's a GOOD man and does his share. Can't blame grandparents or parents anymore...

In my career I work 12 hour days Tue-Fri. My DH works a service job 20hrs Th-Sat, and is working from home trying for paying writing gigs the rest of the time. We have no kids. If our genders were reversed, the 'wife' would be expected to do the majority of the housework, and help keep the 'husband' who makes 90% of the money and works 2.5 times the hours in food and clean laundry. My mate does nothing for me, and I clean house/get groceries on weekends. I didn't think I'd resent this, but I do. yes, we've talked about it. he just doesn't 'get' it, because his mom did everything for him.

So tired of working and doing housework when my husband is a SAHD. There is more to it than dishes and laundry lazy ass. And, yes I have discussed this many times with him. Our dd is in school half days now so he can't use that excuse anymore. So fed up.

Ugh..men.When I had some surgery, my dad was taking me,he called the hospital to complain that we had to be there too early. After the surgery, when I came home from the doc for a follow up visit, the first thing he asked me was, "When can you help me with my housework again?" And the night before I was nervous about it, I told his dog to get of my way, and he started yelling at me. And he wonders why I never got married!!!!!

When I was a SAHM I created things at home to sell to bring in a little extra spending money. I was scout leader, maybe for your kid. I'm the one who drove 60 miles to the trophy place to pick up the soccer trophies that your kid got. I was a PTA officer at your kids' school. I helped DH run the Special Olympics in our town because he worked full-time but I was available to phone, line up huggers, schedule events. I did all our housework, cooked all meals from scratch & drove 2 school carpools. Did all shopping, sewed for my girls, and gave the n'hood Halloween Party. Where were you?