I was not the ow. SO xw left him then we started seeing each other. yes, they were still married but separated. I was in the same situation with my exh. When bio mom found out about me, she got really angry and jealous. And yet *she's* the one who left *him* She decided she didn't want their kids around me so she withheld the kids from him until he took her to court. She still says it's not in the parenting plan that I can drive *her* to school and daycare and makes all sorts of problems with us and likes to meddle and poison the step kids minds.

Dh works full time. I work PT opposite shifs so that we don't have to pay for daycare. We have 2 kids. Dh wants me to quit my job and stay home. He only has to work 1 day of overtime to make up my whole 2 week paycheque! Part of me wants to quit so bad (i hate my retail job) but the other part of me feels like a selfish lazy blob if I don't work. I'm torn.

When our family was starting out, my husband worked 2 jobs and went to school full time while I worked full time at night. We couldn't afford daycare so we had to work opposing shifts. It was hard but we made the sacrifice because taking care of our family was our responsibility. Now that we have WORKED our way up and have a little something to show for our hard work, I think it is bullshit that we have to give so much of it away to pay for other's who aren't willing to make the same sacrifices.

When I worked in daycare I usually had around 15 kids in my class and I can honestly say maybe 5 parents actually knew my name and maybe 1 or 2 would talk to me about their child's progress. The first day I started I kind of got thrown in there by myself first thing that morning and only 2 parents asked where the other teacher was and talked to me before leaving their kids. I know a daycare is a 'safe' place for you to take your kids but I honestly couldn't help but judge parents that didn't take the time to at least talk a little to the person that takes care of their kid all day

Having children does not make you any more entitled to stay home than anyone else. I'm sorry you're upset that your kids are in daycare, but you had another 15 years to have kids. Maybe if you'd spent less time drinking and more time trying to get out of your crappy fast food job it would have been viable. But to me it just sounds like you're pissed your kids weren't a ticket out of the work force.

Even with insurance, I'm STILL trying to pay off the $15,000 hospital bill from when my baby was born. On the other hand, my unemployed cousin can get knocked up 3 times and the government foots the hospital bill AND pays for her daycare, food, housing, and electricity. How is that fair? Yes, I'm bitter and pissed off at how badly the middle class gets screwed over when there are people milking the system for all that it's worth with no repercussions.

Children who are put in daycare do better in school (academically and socially). Look it up.

I had a dream last night that I had twins, tiny twin newborns and that I lived in a different country. When I tried to enroll them in gov't daycare, the gov't tried to take them away because they had video of me taking ecstasy when I first came to the country on vacation. My BFF from HS showed up to be my lawyer. In real life- she's a retail clerk, I've never taken ecstasy, and I have never even been out of the USA. Plus, I've been done having babies for 12 years. Weirdest dream ever. Boy, I loved those babies though, in the dream. Felt real.

My sister had a kid by someones husband knowing that she couldn't afford to take care of it thinking she would get the man.Why am I the bad guy because I won't babysit since I'm a SAHM and my sister needs her money for herself and not paying daycare.

My husband and I were going to take the day off since the kid's daycare was open. He forgot to sign them up and I almost had to bring them home. Might as well have. He stayed up till 5:00 in the morning playing video games. What kind of day together are we going to have if he sleeps all day