Gosh, hubby, thanks for finally starting your job search a month into my maternity leave, when you realized taking care of a kid is too much work for you. I do want you to get a damn job, but it'll be really great for me to have to quit a job I enjoy on short notice or scramble for childcare because after three years of slacking, you realized parenting is way harder than being a cubicle jockey.

I know this is bitchy but I am so ticked my physically and mentally handicapped BIL is coming for Christmas. He demands 90% of DH time and attention, leaving all childcare and holiday prep on my shoulders. Plus he has anger issues, doesn't get his way gets highly agitated and potentially violent. You never know the mood swing. DH can diffuse the situation quickly but so not looking forward to this. Last year was bliss.

I have no respect for anyone who doesn't choose to do what's best for their own family - for us, that's live in childcare and dual six-figure incomes - I can honestly say I look forward to and ENJOY our family time - all of it.

I SAH for now, with 3 kids the childcare would negate any profit. I feel a little useless, I HATE housework, but love being home raising my kids and not being tied down to a job. I want to do an admin. assist. job for our growing church. It would start as volunteer, but I still want to get out of the house. When I told DH that I wanted to do it, he wasn't sure it was a good idea. I told him I felt like I don't have a purpose, he was shocked. Can't you see I'm not completely fulfilled? I love my kids, and my life, but I feel like I'm floundering.

Let me make this easy: If you feel as a wife that you do 100% of the childcare, and cleaning, and thoughtful gift-buying, and cheerful mood-keeping- that is not a healthy marriage. For the record: of course there will be months or even a few years where you will do the bulk of things. But it is NOT healthy or sustainable if this sounds familiar.

I am CF and run a daycare in my home. My neighborhood is short on kids, only 5 came to my house, 3 being current daycare clients. The other 2 met my daycare clients and found out I do daycare...then the big group of parents all got together and discussed doing game nights w/ wine & getting together. I wasn't included in the discussions about getting together at all. I tried to make nice conversation but they only wanted to discuss childcare with me, not making friends. Apparently being a CF daycare provider in the suburbs is not the way to make friends because they only want to become clients

I have a friend who lives over an hour's drive away, and almost every time that we make plans to meet up, she'll contact me that morning and say something came up and she needs to stay at home because her childcare fell through, and could I come out to visit her there? It just happened again today and my answer is no, gas is $3.68 a gallon. No I won't be fine driving all the way to your house instead of meeting in the city like we planned.

I am neither a bio mom or step mom, but I will take a side. bio moms are labled as lazy and money hungry, but being a single mom is very hard, my fiance died when I was pregnant. Paying for all of the bills plus childcare and everything is hard, you can not use the excuse that you cant work because the childcare will eat your check, you just have to work and so what if you have only $450 left after childcare a month, you have to make it work, live in the ghetto somewhere where rent is 300. It is hard, Try to think of the other side, It takes 2 to make a baby. Not all women are money hungry. J

DH-just because I now have a job doesnt mean that my paycheck will be going into our joint account. Until you get off your my paycheck is going into my account with my name on it and I will give you what you need in our joint, MY paycheck will be going into MY account. Oh and if you think 2/3 of my check is going to childcare and paying a bill so you can have your fun...your high on something!

I chose to be a stay at home mom because even childcare before and after school hours is a bit expensive. Plus I love being able to get stuff done.