It does not matter how you put it, if you aren't the active duty military personnel then you aren't in the military. Military spouses are not in the military. I would laugh at a wife is she said because she is a doctor's wife then they are both doctors. The same falls for military spouses. If you aren't working directly for the military as a soldier, etc then you are not in the military, it is that simple. You can say all you want that you live the lifestyle, but that does not equal the job. Make your own accomplishments and full fill your dreams rather than live under the cloud of the spouse

I wonder if more military men cheat than those who don't. Seems to me most of them do.

I really feel sorry for your husband. He is much younger than you. Took in your three kids, and got you pregnant. Eeeks! All you do is complain about the military (you know it's pointless since your exhusband was also military) and act like this is your first pregnancy. I give this marriage 2 years, if that.

I think an military wife of 20 years knows and is a part of military life a hell of a lot more than some servicemember that served one enlistment and got out healthy as can be.

A long time ago I was diagnosed with PCOS by doctors who tested me for it. Lately the cysts have been getting larger than average, causing excruciating pain. I had to go to the OBGYN on base (1st time seeing military OB). From the moment he came in, he tried to convince me I don't have PCOS. He didn't do an exam,sat 5ft away from me, & had no medical paperwork on me. If he said "I'd like to test you to make sure" I'd be okay with it. I didn't go back. Not going to a doctor I don't trust. What a quack.

Husband and I are still married, but separated, not legally separated though. He has been keeping the kids from me. I haven't seen our 2 sons in almost 9 months. Eventually we will have to get a divorce. I really miss my kids and want to see them! How can he do this to me? And how can the military just stand there and let him do this? So, dear Army, I have no rights? Eventually my husband will pick up the phone to talk to me, won't he? I mean, he'll have to contact me somehow to be able to file for divorce and serve me with papers.

It frustrates me that some women will divorce their husbands "because the war changed him." I married DH knowing he's in the military, knowing he's deploying, and understanding that yeah, he's going to come back a different man. I love him, he's my husband, and as his wife, it is my job to help him stay centered and grounded and to do my best to help him through whatever demons he acquires. And to just be damn supportive if nothing else helps.

Any woman affiliated with the military gets a bad rap. The wives are all catty, fat, jealous bitches who sleep around when their husbands are gone and the female service members are all lazy, whiny, self-entitled, whores that sleep around with everyone they work with. We all lose. It would at least be nice if women would take the time to get to know the women on the 'other side'. Especially if you know the stereotypes about you aren't true, that means they probably aren't true for her either.

If someone in the service votes Democrat, I think they should get kicked out. The Dems are the ones cutting budgets and making it impossible for the military to keep any of us, they're looking for any excuse to kick us out. So if someone supports that, I hope they just kick them out and save the spots for those of us who give a fuck about our country, our security, and our jobs.

Sorry, but if you live in a military town, no one really cares that your husband is deployed. We'll support you and help keep you busy and make time seem to go by faster, but we really don't want to listen to you complain all the damn time. I know it's hard, we all do. But damn, you just gotta tough it out sometimes. Theres nothing wrong with having hard days or crying, but you can't break down every day.