We're trying to decide where to have our reception. My parents (who are paying- we're both students and while we could afford something very modest, my parents want and are happy to pay for something bigger) want to have something exotic for the meal. My future in-laws want something very traditional and "safe". I'm torn.

We're not getting married until we can afford the wedding we want. That doesn't mean I'm saving up for specific million-dollar antique centrepieces. But if we have to turn into hermits to afford dinner for 50, or ask my parents or the in-laws for money, or go without a honeymoon, or make the wedding party pay for their outfits, we will just put off the wedding. We live together anyway, a wedding would really just be for us. I don't think less of you if you don't agree, but that's how I plan to do it.

I want to be married. I don't really want a wedding, because I am a private person (reading heart-felt vows, kissing in front of my entire family?? NO WAY!) But I feel like if I don't have a wedding of some kind, I'd regret it. I bet if my parents had been more affectionate towards each other (same with my future in-laws) then maybe I wouldn't feel so awkward.

Make sure your future In-laws ive at lst 500 miles away from you. Trust me on this one.

I just realized that I won't have any in-laws because they've all passed. And the sister-in-law that I'm supposed to have hasn't been heard from in 10 years. It makes me a little sad now that I think about it.

I saw my fiance's niece's dress yesterday. She is not in the wedding. My younger sister (4) is the ring bearer, by the time the in-laws decided they were ALL coming, sister's dress was bought and paid for and it was too late to add additional bridal attendants. MIL bought FH's niece an IVORY flower-girl type dress. MY dress is ivory as is the ring bearer's!! We have both made it clear (many times) that she is not in the wedding and the reasons why she isn't. Doesn't it go against etiquette for ANYONE to wear white/ivory unless the bride ok's it?! I most definitely DID NOT ok it!

SIL was HORRIBLE at my wedding last year, and I made her a bridesmaid before I found out she hated me. She just got engaged and I do not want to be a bridesmaid, but I'm afraid my in-laws are going to try and push for it. I just don't feel comfortable being her bridesmaid. My ILs just gloss over how she acted and my SIL expects that I'll shill out my money for her as a bridesmaid. How do I say no without causing drama?

None of my in-laws came to my wedding shower. They held their own shower a couple of weeks later to "make up for not coming". I still feel massively angry about it even though it's been almost 20 years. They all made excuses. I'll never understand why. Maybe because I'm the only female that married in to their family? My brother in law also came to my wedding in a polo shirt and faded jeans. We wore formal attire to his wedding. Assheads. All of them.

My in-laws to be planned an event in another state that is far away 3 months before my wedding. Knowing that they would have to travel to both events. The person doing the planning was even told to wait and do it the year following the wedding and but she wanted to do it this year. Now my fiances people are backing out of my wedding because they felt guilted into going the event before my wedding and will not have enough money to travel to both...hate my in-laws already

I have my own bank account. I kept my last name. We aren't having kids. My ring isn't a diamond. Those are all choices DH and I made together and are happy. As a bonus it drives my in-laws crazy!